Single men dating moms kids
I've been at it for three-plus years now, so let me take a stab at what I suspect are your most pressing questions--they were surely mine. I know people who waited years before deciding to take the plunge and some who threw themselves into it instantly. If there's another parent in the picture and you share custody, you will suddenly have something called free time, which you may remember from your pre-mom days.
There's no right or wrong, but you should date only because you want to, not because anyone else thinks you should or shouldn't. (If you're the solo caregiver, please put down this magazine and make yourself a roster of babysitters because you'll need a break.) I remember finding those first few weekends sans kids heady and horrible at the same time.
He and the girls got to interact casually in a group setting, without him feeling like he was on a job interview.
Still, there's no right or wrong way to do the meet-and-greet, and there are so many potential variables, including the age, sex, and personality of your kids.
A few rules of thumb for you: Tell the kids about your new guy after you've been dating him for a few months and believe the relationship is likely to continue.
There's no reason to put everyone through the meet-up if he's going to be history next week.
People do get fixed up, from what I hear, and I suppose there are women who can make things happen at bars, playgrounds, and big-box chain stores. The fact is, you're a busy mom, which means you're often housebound.
But they're girls and I'm their mom, so it was a whole different thing.
Several months after my husband and I separated, it finally occurred to me that I was free to date. The last time I'd been single, I'd had copious amounts of free time, was beholden to no one, and believed in love.
Now, however, I had 16 years of marriage and 11 years of motherhood under my belt, plus a less-than-starry-eyed attitude about romance.
And did I mention the two precious, innocent little girls who needed me to be there for them?
Trying to simultaneously be a hot mama and an uber-responsible single parent was a challenge to my schedule and my psyche, but I learned that you can, in fact, have a romantic life without freaking out your kids (or yourself).